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How can I come out to my old fashioned dad? who hates gay people because he thinks
they are unnatural, he even wants me to join the army I don't know what to do
well just believe that his love for you would be heavier than his belief
of gays being unnatural if not you are a grown man if he can't take it
just move out and be free at least you told him
What if its the complete opposite and his dad ends up disowning him? Are you willing to comfort him and tell him that coming out is still the right decision?
All of us would leave our parent's home when the right time comes. After you had left your parents, that is the time that you could do whatever you wish to do with your life. Now, enjoy the gay life, okay?
Yes, he must tell the truth to his dad, and then leave them alone. He might not be accepted for a long time, but he needs to come out. Well, coming out is such a happy and liberalizing experience.
That one would be hard too but if it's the only way then just be closeted gay to your dad but if your moms know about it, I think it's best if she's aware of it. I know that a mother's love is unconditional even if you're out to her as gay, she will still continue to love you and would still accept you wholeheartedly.
Move out from your house, and come out to the world. Your daddy would not be able to accept you, so be it. There are many people who are not accepted by their families, yet they were able to survive just fine.
Yes, they become better version of themselves right after they come out of their shells and it's just so amazing! You cannot please people even if those people are the ones closest to you, and that's the truth!
Yes, moving out is the first action. When you are already living alone and away from the people who could not accept you, then the freedom to be who you are would already be at hand.
It would be dangerous for you to join the army and you're a closeted gay. I think you should gather up all of your courage and tell your dad that you are gay, just so you can save yourself from entering the army when you know that you do not belong there.
Are you sure that he hates gays or just thinks that it is unnatural to be gay? Because there's a difference to that since hate is such a strong word, just thinking that maybe he does not find it amusing or just dislikes the idea of being gay. Maybe you should talk to him when he's in the right mood that you're not interested to join the army. Then you'd tell him the reason why just tell that you are gay.
Dinosaur Daddy shouldn't be the one deciding what is good for his son since Dinosaur Daddy is unaware that his son is a closeted gay. Let his son decide what he thinks is good for himself and all he needs is the unconditional love and support from both of his parents. Dinosaur Daddy should hear him out if he ever had the chance to come out to him, that's all I can say for now.
I think the reason why he calls him that is because he's old fashioned that's why he still keeps the same old values. What he has to do is try and convince him that there's nothing wrong with being gay
That is so old-fashioned. Sending letter would just confuse him more. I think that it is better to tell him directly. It is like a heart-to-heart talk, but I doubt that it would be successful.
Are you sure that your dad hasn't have the slightest idea that you're gay? Maybe your dad knows about it and just waiting for you to open up to him about it
Sometimes it is best to stay in the closet if you are financially and physically depending on your parents.If the chances of this happening are strong, you might want to consider "holding off" until you have finished school, are financially independent, and have your own place to live.
It's my problem actually and thank you for giving me insights regarding the issue to help me consider telling it or just "hold it off" till the right time comes.
Okay, why do most fathers refuse their sons to live on the gay life? Most mothers would allow their sons to be gays, but not the fathers. Could it be ego? Could it be protection on the reputation? I wonder why.
If you have a dinosaur daddy, then good luck! LOL. Well, what can we do? Most fathers would be like dinosaurs who would growl loudly upon learning that their sons are gay.
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