My Marriage

[Denver]

I have been happily married for years but I fucked up and did not find out until just now that I am gay. I really want to tell her and come clean but I don''t want to hurt her. Also, we have two beautiful daughters together. I do not want to ruin our family by telling them that I am gay after all these years. I just did not know it until recently when I had an affair with a man over my business trip to Europe. Has anyone had to go about this in their life and how did it turn out? I would honestly rather live in the closet then ruin our family.

[StanleyCrass]

Yeah I have been there and it never ends great so just figure that whole thing out. I wish I could go back and not hurt the people I hurt but it sucks when you realize that you are gay after you have already made prior commitments. The best thing you can do is still be there best fiend and help them with the adjustment. Unless you never plan on pursuing being gay. Than you do that ever you would like to do. But honestly. You just need to go out and do your own thing and find out for sure if you are gay. Because if you aren't even gay than it really doesn't matter now does it?

[LeafsFan]

You just need to have a few more affairs and really find out if you are gay or not because in the end. You might just have been a bit curious and you want to try something new. maybe you just like butt sex. Which you can probably convince your wife to do with you. Modern women are usual pretty liberal.

[BackDoorParking]

Always look at it this way. Is it worth it ruin your marriage? Think long and hard about that. If you just want an affair, if you want to know if your gay, if you want to have butt sex with someone else. Is it worth it to ruin the life you have built? Thatis the whole deal now. You aren't alone. You have someone else there with you that you need to think about. If you plan on ruinnng their lives you need to at least try your best not to hurt them. Well, as bad. Hurt them as bad.

[PeteMongahan]

Why do straight men feel like it's cool to just come on here and take over our space that we busted our ass to get for ourselves. you are ruining everything we have built. I would like to know why you are on here to begin with? This is not a place for you.