I'm struggling to tell my parents that I'm gay :(

[AndrewGibson]

i've known for a long time that i'm gay n i've come to accept that without any problems. my friends know about it so there's no problem about that. i told my brother two years ago. he didn't take it well at the start, but he understood after some time. now finally, my parents are left to be said n i think that's the toughest part. i don't know how they will react. probably not well. but i don't want to keep it from them any longer. i think longer i wait, tougher it's going to get. plus i feel very bad not telling them the truth. i've lived knowing this fact for a long time n i don't want to keep it to myself any longer. it would be great if some members who've found it difficult to tell their parents share their experiences with me. what's the best way to tell parents? is there any way that i can make it easier for everyone? please help me out. it's that last obstacle n i'll be able to live my life happily once i get this out of the way.

[richard_thatcher]

I think that's the toughest part for many and it's the same for me too. I just couldn't think of a good way to tell my parents. There's no ideal way to be honest. You just got to go up to them, sit them down, tell them that you love them and drop the bomb! There's no nice and sweet way to do that. My parents cried. Then I left the room. We didn't talk or look eye to eye for a week or so. I think they talked about it between themselves during that time. I mean they must have understood that there was no way changing my sexual orientation. They just had to find ways to deal with it and they did. They came to me one night and told me that they loved me no matter what and they would support me being happy with the way I was. That was that. I really think you should come out no matter what. I know from experience how hard it is, but there's no easy way out.

[Nico.B]

Coming out of the closet to my parents was the toughest thing I've ever done in my life. There's no argument about that. Just do it. It doesn't really matter how you do it, it's going to be damn hard! Just get it over and everyone including you will feel relieved.

[henry-lewis]

Starting by telling them how much you love and appreciate them is the best way to go. Some parents will sense what's coming their way when you start that way, but I think it's the best way to start your little speech. My mum found it really tough to face the reality and she took almost a year to come to terms with that. I mean some parents have so much expectations from you like kids and stuff and once you tell them that you're gay, all those dreams are shattered. So it's always going to be kinda tough.

[FreddieX]

Honestly, there's no nice way of telling your parents that you're gay. However, that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. Be prepared to see your parents either sad or mad. Mine were both haha Anyway, even if they don't handle it well, tell them that you're telling them because you love them and that you don't want to keep something like that from them any longer. Tell them that you can't change the way you are. It's a bit easier for them to accept things when you put it that way. My brother was the worst. He didn't talk to me for months, but now we are just besties! He even jokes about me being gay and we get along really well. Coming out was tough, but that's how it's supposed to be. I hope that you'll be able to tell your parents soon.

[AndrewGibson]

i really appreciate you guys taking the time to help me out. now i have a good idea about how i'm going to do this n i will do it this week. i know that it's not worth waiting any longer. personaly i think i have waited way too long. i'm glad that i've told my brother n friends earlier. now i don't have to deal with everyone at once. i think that's a bit of a relief for now. anyway, thank you guys again. i'm going to do it within the week. i'll deal with what comes my way after that.