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I needed to come out to my family and I thought what better way to do it than when everyone was at the dinner table for Thanksgiving. You should have seen the mouths drop open and the stares that I got as if everyone was shocked and couldn't believe their ears. I just wanted to do it when everyone was in one place, but it looked like that was a bad idea and before I knew it, so many people were trying to voice their opinions, most of them bad opinions. I ended up leaving in disgust at what they thought about me cause I was gay.
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I hope you told them after everyone finished the turkey. Some of your family members went to a lot of trouble cooking that turkey and so it would be so sad to walk away from a meal that was cooked with such love. If you walked away with your stomach filled, then that is better...lol.. sorry, I know this isn't a joke, but thought I would lighten up the situation. -
ManyThanksgiving table because of the obvious reason that everyone is in the same room, but it has spoiled a lot of holiday dinners before and in your case, it looks like that is how it turned out. Too bad!Comment
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I would have waited and told them one by one, either by phone or in person. You should have just ate your Thanksgiving dinner in peace and pretend that you were less than cool about being there and not letting them know that you are gay. Get out of here. Who the fuck cares what they want to think? I know I didn't. You are too soft on that. You have to grow some balls.Comment
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Yes, family is important, but it aint that serious. It really isn't. You should do what makes you comfortable. I can imagine how nervous you were around that dinner table, trying to muster the courage to tell them and then they take the news badly and you have to exit. Sucks!Comment
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I wouldn't have given them the news around a Thanksgiving dinner table because everyone is gonna handle it in a different way. Maybe, you should have asked to speak with each of them while they were away from the dinner table. Then you would have known the response from each family member. Thanksgiving should be a time for family and when conflict is there, it makes it heard and possibly uncomfortable for some famliy members.Comment
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You made a mistake by telling them during the holidays. Everyone takes news in a different. If I were you and knowing that you had such a diverse family, I would have wrote a letter to some of them, called some on the phone and told some in person, but not on a holiday.Comment
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Your family cares for you I think, but they probably were blindsided by the news. You cannot fault them for feeling the way they did. Some people think that you knew all along and kept it from them too log. So you have to understand it from their point of view. Don't be so hard on them. You could have called each of them on the phone afterwards and apologize and explain how you felt. I hope you did!Comment
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Ultimately, I made up with them, but it was not easy for me. They understood that I was carrying a load on my shoulders for so many years and I have made peace with most of my family members. There is still a lot of work to be done and some trust to build. thanks for the comments. 🤘Comment
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